5 Marriage Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

By: Glennice Fryson

Break Studios Contributing Writer

Below are 5 marriage questions to ask your girlfriend.  Even though it seems not to be such, marriage is a serious commitment.  Both parties should understand that marriage is considered sacred and once the vows of marriage are spoken they are not to be broken unless under three conditions: Abandonment, Abuse or Adultery.  Yet, our society has taken marriage and the vows much to callously and made it far too easy for one to remove oneself from their commitment confessed and vowed before God.  Before standing before a minister and confessing your love and devotion, ask your intended a few questions to make sure this person is the person you really want to spend the remainder of your life with:

  1. Do you consider marriage a life long commitment?  When man and woman are joined together, the commitment is suppose to be life long and until death.  Today, marriages are dissolved far too easily. If one person feels they do not like the way the other sleeps, they file for divorce and get it. Marriages are not suppose to be dissolved so easily. The vows state within them "Till death do us part."  It's important to see how committed your girlfriend is to marriage.
  2. When we are married, If I were to become physically disabled and could not control my bodily functions and had to depend on you totally for my care, what would you do? You want to know if your girlfriend is so committed to you that she would do anything for you that is needed. You know the total quality of love can be measured based on the devotion your girlfriend has for you if you are not able to perform as normal. So when you are not able to perform as a normal healthy human being, will your girlfriend still love you and be there for you.
  3. Do you believe a husband and wife are one, and what does that mean?  When asking this question you want to see how deep your girlfriend is when thinking of the soul of marriage. Marriage is not about just loving while you are beautiful and desirable. Marriage is about becoming so involved in each other that after the physical beauty has diminished, you are still in love with each other.
  4. If you are rich when you first married but you lost your wealth and became poor, will she stay with you?  Sometimes love is blinded by our possessions, our wealth and what we have, not what we are. Women are and can be very superficial. Women and men sometimes love things and not the person. Sometimes, it doesn't matter how you look, as long as you have plenty of money. You can get a gorgeous boyfriend or girlfriend and marriage will follow. But, when the money is gone, she or he is usually gone.
  5. Who will be responsible for making the money and who will be responsible for paying all bills?  The majority of marriages fail because these questions are not asked and monitored regularly or kept. Often the person making the money does not maintain an overview of the amount required to keep everything going and then the person who keeps everything going either fails to keep it going or cannot keep it going on the same amount as originally planned. When one or the other fails, open discussion is required. Yet, sometimes if both parties cannot discuss without blame, problems occur and either one or the other simply closes off the channel of communication. Discuss finances and the practicality of making sure money continues to grow as requirements grow with your girlfriend.
Posted on: Dec. 23, 2010