How To Talk With Girls

By: Lara Stewart

Break Studios Contributing Writer

You may wonder how to talk with girls, but it's really a lot easier than you think. As foreign and intimidating as they seem, girls are really no different from you. There is no need to be afraid to strike up a conversation. Here are a few tips that can make it easier for you to talk with girls:

  1. Smile and be friendly. A warm greeting puts people at ease. Smiling shows that you are approachable, and most people almost instinctively smile back. Even if you feel nervous, looking friendly and at ease will help your confidence, as well.
  2. Cultivate a wide range of interests. The more things you are involved in, the more things you will have to talk about with girls. If your average day involves waking up, watching TV, then playing MMORPGs until late in the evening, you'll wind up draining your well of conversation topics pretty fast. Taking on a few hobbies that get you out of the house and keeping up on current events are just two ideas for broadening your interests. Having things to talk about is an important factor in being able to talk with girls.
  3. Know what's going on in the world. A quick scan of world and national news and a closer reading of local news can give you things to talk about with girls. It can be especially helpful to make sure you know about local entertainment. For instance, opening a conversation about your town's open air music festival could even lead to a date.
  4. Don't be afraid to ask her questions. People are interested in those who are interested in them. Of course, you don't want to interrogate her. But, if you see that the girl you want to talk with is wearing a band T-shirt or has the name of a cause or non-profit on her book bag, ask about it. Getting her to open up about her interests is a great way to have a real conversation.
  5. Be a good listener. When she talks, listen attentively instead of just waiting for your turn to talk. Ask her questions that encourage her to expand on what she's already said. Many people who are considered great conversationalists, ironically, tend to say very little at all. Getting her talking is a great way to enhance your ability to talk with girls.
Posted on: Nov. 06, 2010